Tuesday, October 9, 2007
Till death do us part
Have you found your life partner? Many had spoken the marriage vow… but how many really live to the standards and committed to our marriage vow, the vow to be together in sickness and in health, for poorer and richer and till death do us part? In our so called liberal and modern thinking, some take marriage just like a contract, we loved each other now and put our signatures to be officially married, tomorrow we felt we no longer love each other and we put another signature to be officially unmarried. I don’t have the divorce rate statistics with me but seeing friends around me gives me the hint that the rate is high, mind you my friends only, how about those whom I do not know?
I believe reasons are many but normally categorized into few main factors which are money, sickness, third party, children, self-centeredness. Some couples disagreed with financial management arrangement, some left their spouse when sickness strikes (normally the one who is sick is being abandoned), many due to extra marital affairs, some due to disagreements in child upbringing and barrenness and most of the time due to self-centeredness, the big word “I”.
Having married for 8 years make me no marriage specialist but each day I am still learning to love my spouse, to be more considerate and understanding and to be more submissive (I have problem with this) and in return I believe my spouse is trying hard to love me more each day despite of my multitude weaknesses. I am delighted knowing my dear friends’ marriages are still solid and strong and sad, every time I was made known who and who divorced.
I hope there is still many out there who viewed marriage as a sacred union that should not be broken at all cost, certainly not by self-centeredness because when you decide to get married with another person, you are actually denying your rights but making the choice to live as one and that’s pretty tough because we are two totally different unique individuals. It is my prayer that all married couples who read this shall live to the marriage vow that is to love and to cherish, for better and for worst, in sickness and in health, for poorer or richer, till death do us part.