Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
Monday, June 7, 2010
Our 11th Anniversary - 05.06.2011
We left the house at 4.30pm after much protest from the girls. Hubby was very secretive this time round, we drove all the way to Batu Feringghi and he made reservation at this place, a really romantic place indeed, we had a lovely evening and of course his pocket was busted for the occasion, we took a stroll at the famous Feringghi pasar malam, did some window shopping, drove passed Gurney Drive and headed home. I thank God for blessing our marriage for the past eleven years and many more celebrations of the day to come. To my honey bee... "Thank you dear for the splendid night and love you dearly"
Thursday, June 3, 2010
"Printer" date
Coming this Sat, 5th June hubby and I will be celebrating our 11th wedding anniversary. He dropped me an e-mail this morning officially asking me out to shop for a printer on Sat evening. Yeah you read it write, shopping for a printer, you see this is the same tactic that he used more than 15 years ago to secure a so call date with me. Well, we bought no printer on that day but ended up in the cinema, shopping and dining instead. The printer was just a plain excuse from a kampung boy who wants to tackle a kampung girl... LOL. I'm not sure about this "printer" date but sure sweet of him to ask me out after 11 years of being married to this kampung boy. Kampung boy has turned into a kampung uncle now but love is still very much in the air....
Monday, November 2, 2009
Communication Essence of a Healthy Marriage
I remembered many years ago, my boss told us, a group of managers that the essence of good leadership is good communication and she started to share a series of training which included what is true communication, the importance of it and also the consequences if good communication is not present.
As God has blessed my marriage, I truly believe that apart from letting God to be the head of the sacred communion (this is vital and most important), good communication between hubby and I sealed our marriage. Many couples do not have problem communicating during those courting years but many did in their marriage later on.
Of course not everything is smooth sailing between hubby and I but as we thread this journey together, we realized communication is very important and essence to a healthy marriage.
Communication is more than talking verbally to your partner, that is talking… communication is both giving and receiving at the same time. I realized when we live for ourselves rather than for one another and with one another, then that is the very moment we stop communicating.
There’s no doubt that as partner of lives, we are still entitled to time of our own, doing things that we like and spending time with people whom we cherished but as husband and wife especially for those who are married for years, sometimes we just stop communicating (maybe we think we know each other too well or simply we do not have to… thinking each should understand our body language after many years being together). I believe if that happens, Satan has succeeded in his first attempt.
Many couples have lost their first love for their partner, being together is more like a commitment rather than emotional feeling for one another. Wives are preoccupied with the welfare of the children and household, husbands are busy with building careers, all these are done for the sake of the family, but sometimes all these are done at the expense of our other half.
How would we treat our other half? Our spouse is like our other half, would we stop feeding the other half after many years, definitely no, if we were to do that then it is like a slow death, slowly depriving our other half of the nutrients that is required for continual growth. Stop communicating is the very first sign of us neglecting and depriving the other half and soon it may be too late to feed the other half once cracks start developing…
For those who have not stopped communicating with your spouse, I wish you well, keep on the good work, and find creative ways to communicate with your other half. Let us kneel down and pray that God will protect the many marriage unions that has stop communicating, healed the hurts and revived their hearts that they will truly start communicating again.
To end this, I would like to share how hubby and I communicate; we want to bless you as God bless us.
I:
1) Find time to cook him his favorite meal, not the children’s for I always agreed to this old phrase – “The way to the man’s heart is through his stomach”
2) Iron for him for this is the thing I hate most, by ironing his shirts; he knows that I love him…
3) Prepare the kids early to bed, so that both of us have time to talk and share what has happened in a peaceful environment.
4) Let him do his favorite things but with the understanding of the time he will be away.
5) Tell him what is bothering you, trust me, men will not just know
6) Teach the children to value, honor and respect their father
7) Dress up just for him, put on perfume... and gifts from him
8) Date him….
9) Tell him you need his time
10) Submit to him
He:
1) Remembers my birthday and our wedding anniversary
2) Takes the effort to plan something memorable for those special dates
3) Reminds me of his love frequently through e-mails, sms, msn…
4) Buys me gifts randomly
5) Washes my car
6) Irons for me when he has to do the ironing himself
7) Dates me
8) Holds my hand
9) Communicates with me
10) Teaches me and uphold me in my biblical understanding
11) Is sensitive towards my needs
So you see communication is hard labor, if your other half is worth your time to court before marriage and spent hours communicating before marriage, how much more you need to court and communicate with her/him for the years to come. It is our prayers that you find the joy and fruit of your effort... please do not stop communicating and let Satan become a foothold in your marriage.
As God has blessed my marriage, I truly believe that apart from letting God to be the head of the sacred communion (this is vital and most important), good communication between hubby and I sealed our marriage. Many couples do not have problem communicating during those courting years but many did in their marriage later on.
Of course not everything is smooth sailing between hubby and I but as we thread this journey together, we realized communication is very important and essence to a healthy marriage.
Communication is more than talking verbally to your partner, that is talking… communication is both giving and receiving at the same time. I realized when we live for ourselves rather than for one another and with one another, then that is the very moment we stop communicating.
There’s no doubt that as partner of lives, we are still entitled to time of our own, doing things that we like and spending time with people whom we cherished but as husband and wife especially for those who are married for years, sometimes we just stop communicating (maybe we think we know each other too well or simply we do not have to… thinking each should understand our body language after many years being together). I believe if that happens, Satan has succeeded in his first attempt.
Many couples have lost their first love for their partner, being together is more like a commitment rather than emotional feeling for one another. Wives are preoccupied with the welfare of the children and household, husbands are busy with building careers, all these are done for the sake of the family, but sometimes all these are done at the expense of our other half.
How would we treat our other half? Our spouse is like our other half, would we stop feeding the other half after many years, definitely no, if we were to do that then it is like a slow death, slowly depriving our other half of the nutrients that is required for continual growth. Stop communicating is the very first sign of us neglecting and depriving the other half and soon it may be too late to feed the other half once cracks start developing…
For those who have not stopped communicating with your spouse, I wish you well, keep on the good work, and find creative ways to communicate with your other half. Let us kneel down and pray that God will protect the many marriage unions that has stop communicating, healed the hurts and revived their hearts that they will truly start communicating again.
To end this, I would like to share how hubby and I communicate; we want to bless you as God bless us.
I:
1) Find time to cook him his favorite meal, not the children’s for I always agreed to this old phrase – “The way to the man’s heart is through his stomach”
2) Iron for him for this is the thing I hate most, by ironing his shirts; he knows that I love him…
3) Prepare the kids early to bed, so that both of us have time to talk and share what has happened in a peaceful environment.
4) Let him do his favorite things but with the understanding of the time he will be away.
5) Tell him what is bothering you, trust me, men will not just know
6) Teach the children to value, honor and respect their father
7) Dress up just for him, put on perfume... and gifts from him
8) Date him….
9) Tell him you need his time
10) Submit to him
He:
1) Remembers my birthday and our wedding anniversary
2) Takes the effort to plan something memorable for those special dates
3) Reminds me of his love frequently through e-mails, sms, msn…
4) Buys me gifts randomly
5) Washes my car
6) Irons for me when he has to do the ironing himself
7) Dates me
8) Holds my hand
9) Communicates with me
10) Teaches me and uphold me in my biblical understanding
11) Is sensitive towards my needs
So you see communication is hard labor, if your other half is worth your time to court before marriage and spent hours communicating before marriage, how much more you need to court and communicate with her/him for the years to come. It is our prayers that you find the joy and fruit of your effort... please do not stop communicating and let Satan become a foothold in your marriage.
Saturday, June 20, 2009
Special gift...
Hubby bought this for me as our 10th wedding anniversary gift, a ring and a pair of pearl earrings from Lazo Diamond. It cost hubby a mini "bomb" ha ha ha, thank you dear and I love you. Initially we plan to buy a couple ring but after surveying through the choices, hubby decided a ring for me will do in which I glady submitted... since there's a promotion I got an additional pair of pearl earrings as well (ha ha one stone killing two birds) ke ke ke.
Thursday, June 4, 2009
05.06.1999 vs. 05.06.2009
Below are the chronology of above two special occasions….
Time 05.06.1999
8 – 9 am Hair-do at the saloon
9 – 10 am Make up and get dressed
10 – 11 am The groom arrived with his convoy
11 – 12 noon Banged the door, went through obstacles by the “sisters” and demanded the bride to be “released”.
12 – 1 pm Tea ceremony and trip to the church
1- 2 pm Church ceremony, sealing of the marriage
2 – 3 pm Tea reception
3 – 4 pm Tea reception
4 – 5 pm Rest at home
5 – 6 pm Rest at home
6 – 7 pm Dinner with close family members and relatives
7 – 8 pm Dinner
8 – 9 pm Harassment session by friends
9 – 10 pm The harassment continued
10 – 11 pm Harassment coming to an end, censored censored censored XXXX ha ha ha
Time 05.06.2009 (Plan)
8 – 9 am Get everybody to wake up
9 – 10 am Breakfast & Botanical Garden
10 – 11 am Still in the garden
11 – 12 noon Lunch and trip to Batu Feringghi for a night hotel stay.
12 – 1 pm Trip to the hotel
1- 2 pm Check-in
2 – 3 pm Afternoon nap
3 – 4 pm Afternoon nap
4 – 5 pm Swimming
5 – 6 pm Kite flying
6 – 7 pm Wash up and prepare for dinner
7 – 8 pm Dinner
8 – 9 pm Visit the night market
9 – 10 pm Night market
10 – 11 pm Should be very exhausted and go back to hotel… no action so no need to censor (the girls will be with us!!) ke ke ke
I will post the actual happenings next week, at the mean time stay tuned and blog rest for the weekend…..
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