Hubby and I went for a parenting seminar last Sat. What was supposed to be an 8 hours workshop has been squeezed to a 1 1/2 hour session. The speaker is a full time child care counsellor back in Singapore with many years of hands on experience, she speaks like a bullet train and delivered the seminar interestingly. Below are some of the points the we captured, hope this is of help to other parents as well:
1) Comparing your child - if we have 2 children we tend to compare between them, of course as far as we could, we should not be comparing our children. Below is alternative that we could try:
"Wow, you see jeh jeh can color so well, would like to put in effort to color as well as jeh jeh?" By doing so, the child would not feel that she is not good, instead she can do better and jeh jeh was put as role model/an object of admiration for her to imitate.
2) Allow yourself be in the world of your child, do not take their questions or "stories" as nuisance, they are trying to relate and associate themselves to their surroundings.
3) It's important for daddy to become a role model/idol that the children admired, girls will tend to find husbands that modeled after their father.
4) It's not right that the children should be scared of one of the parent, children should be able to open to both parents, else they will look for that someone externally.
5) Spend quality time with your children, even it's just 5 minutes a day, give them your attention, hug and tell your children that you love them.
6) Girls tend to mature faster, do not use the same method in dealing with different gender, attend to your girls' emotional need.
7) Should you need to discipline them, follow these steps.
We made lots of mistakes along the way........ which parents do not..... we are not alone... happy parenting ya!